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Curtailing Woman and Child Abuse in the Context of South Africa

Curtailing Woman and Child Abuse in the Context of South Africa

Curtailing Woman and Child Abuse in the Context of South Africa Article | I Am Not A MistakeWhile it is true that woman and children abuse is rife all over the world, right here in South Africa we have some of the most concentrated cases of it. While the social, political and economic struggles that face South Africans each day could point to a route cause for many of these cases, the fact remains that it is ever-present, and needs to be taken out of society. Unfortunately, abuse is something that many women and children need to live with on a daily basis; and while men are not always the culprit, they certainly make up for the largest share of them. The way of things, realistically, will not change over-night. However, with each of us taking steps where we can to make things better, something has to eventually give.

Create a Difference Between Awareness and Desensitisation

Taking steps to solve the problem of abuse on a large scale requires a very important transformation, and that is in the way that people view campaigns that hope to battle it. Often enough on television and news-feeds on the internet, we are shown cases of abuse as though they are a normal part of society.

When individuals are exposed to these same types of messages over and over again, they begin to be desensitised to them. This results in the problem being undermined, seen as something that isn’t as severe as it is in reality, and as a result, inspires inactivity in those that could be combatting it and worse, complacency in those who suffer from it.

Beneath the Waves an Ocean

Often enough, the effects of abuse are missed or underestimated. The policy of ‘what happens behind closed doors’ not only breeds a climate of silence, but also hampers a person’s understanding of the wide-spread and severe effects of abuse. They permeate every inch of a victim’s life; from home to social to professional.

Understanding how abuse can control a person, can also make it easier to spot when it is being hidden. When it comes to abuse, what we see on the surface is only a taste; everything that goes on under the surface is more severe, more damaging, and sometimes easier to spot. Those looking to offer abuse support to victims needs to be able to identify signals.

Men Need to Take Up the Fight As Well

While many men in South African society do take up the fight against woman and child abuse, many feel that by not being involved in it, they are being heroic enough. However, sometimes staying silent can be as bad as doing it yourself, since you are enabling abuse to occur. For any significant changes to be seen, we need to see more men being activists for the abused.

Contact the I am Not a Mistake Foundation

If you or someone you know is the victim of abuse, it is important for you to know that there is help out there, and it is help that comes from a perspective of understanding and experience. To find out more about how we can help you, contact a representative from the I am Not a Mistake Foundation today, or visit our website for additional information.

Global trade show of networking

Global trade show of networking

Friday 27 july 2018 – Sunday 29 july 2018 Gallagher convention center. It truly gives me great pleasure to announce that, I am Not a Mistake Foundation, had been invited to be an exhibitor at this year’s Show. HALL: 5 BOOTH: P14 PDF Invitation – Global trade show of networking and I am Not a Mistake Foundation Continue Reading

Nelie Olivier

Nelie Olivier

Hi, This is my blog, my name is Nelie Olivier from I am not a mistake foundation. Reaching out to those in need, who want to re-create their lives. I have a story to tell, but more than that, I have a mission to reach people that need help! I am sharing my story not… Continue Reading

Adoption

Adoption

Overcome Feeling Neglected “YOU ARE GOD’S MASTERPIECE” ~Ephesians 2:10 CLICK HERE TO MAKE A DONATION AND TO SAVE A LIFE! When you find out you are adopted there is a rush of confusion and questions that comes over you. The one thing to remember is that being given up for adoption has nothing to do… Continue Reading

MENTAL AND PHYCOLOGICAL ABUSE:  SILENT TREATMENT

MENTAL AND PHYCOLOGICAL ABUSE: SILENT TREATMENT

MENTAL AND PHYCOLOGICAL ABUSE:  SILENT TREATMENT   I have personally experienced both (giving and receiving) the silent treatment. I also have a lot of people that I deal with that did not even see that “silent treatment” is a severe form of mental and Phycological abuse. My definition of this is:   A way to inflict… Continue Reading

Is Mental Illness a Condition or a Reaction?

Is Mental Illness a Condition or a Reaction?

Depression and anxiety disorders are becoming commonplace in our world, with more and more reported sufferers each year finding it difficult to combat their debilitating effects, and choosing to rely on medication to keep their minds clear and quiet. In many cases, medication is the only answer to this serious problem, but in this day… Continue Reading

Truth About The Silent Treatment

Truth About The Silent Treatment

The silent treatment is literally a non-visible way to inflict pain without. Research has shown that the same area of the brain that is activated by physical pain is activated when one is ignored. The way couples interact and treat each other during the bad times determines how strong the relationship will be. The best… Continue Reading

The Most Common Types of Abuse

The Most Common Types of Abuse

Unfortunately, several types of abuse are far too common in different forms of relationships. Forms of abuse typically are seen in domestic partnerships, however, abuse is also common between elders and their adult children. Regardless of the age, gender, socioeconomic status, education or ethnicity, just about anyone can become a victim of abuse. Understanding the… Continue Reading

Identifying the Symptoms of Depression

Identifying the Symptoms of Depression

Depression is a serious medical illness that negatively affects how one feels, the way one thinks and how one behaves. It can be caused by various factors including sorrow, alcohol or drug use, money concerns and potentially many other factors. Symptoms of depression are multifaceted and often vary from one person to the next, but… Continue Reading

Forms of Abuse Common to South Africa

Forms of Abuse Common to South Africa

For certain sects of the South African population, abuse is a commonplace part of life. And while more is being done each year to spread awareness of the problem, there are still limited solutions and safe-havens for its victims. When the conversation of abuse is on the table, the mind generally jumps straight to domestic… Continue Reading