While it is true that woman and children abuse is rife all over the world, right here in South Africa we have some of the most concentrated cases of it. While the social, political and economic struggles that face South Africans each day could point to a route cause for many of these cases, the fact remains that it is ever-present, and needs to be taken out of society. Unfortunately, abuse is something that many women and children need to live with on a daily basis; and while men are not always the culprit, they certainly make up for the largest share of them. The way of things, realistically, will not change over-night. However, with each of us taking steps where we can to make things better, something has to eventually give.
Create a Difference Between Awareness and Desensitisation
Taking steps to solve the problem of abuse on a large scale requires a very important transformation, and that is in the way that people view campaigns that hope to battle it. Often enough on television and news-feeds on the internet, we are shown cases of abuse as though they are a normal part of society.
When individuals are exposed to these same types of messages over and over again, they begin to be desensitised to them. This results in the problem being undermined, seen as something that isn’t as severe as it is in reality, and as a result, inspires inactivity in those that could be combatting it and worse, complacency in those who suffer from it.
Beneath the Waves an Ocean
Often enough, the effects of abuse are missed or underestimated. The policy of ‘what happens behind closed doors’ not only breeds a climate of silence, but also hampers a person’s understanding of the wide-spread and severe effects of abuse. They permeate every inch of a victim’s life; from home to social to professional.
Understanding how abuse can control a person, can also make it easier to spot when it is being hidden. When it comes to abuse, what we see on the surface is only a taste; everything that goes on under the surface is more severe, more damaging, and sometimes easier to spot. Those looking to offer abuse support to victims needs to be able to identify signals.
Men Need to Take Up the Fight As Well
While many men in South African society do take up the fight against woman and child abuse, many feel that by not being involved in it, they are being heroic enough. However, sometimes staying silent can be as bad as doing it yourself, since you are enabling abuse to occur. For any significant changes to be seen, we need to see more men being activists for the abused.
Contact the I am Not a Mistake Foundation
If you or someone you know is the victim of abuse, it is important for you to know that there is help out there, and it is help that comes from a perspective of understanding and experience. To find out more about how we can help you, contact a representative from the I am Not a Mistake Foundation today, or visit our website for additional information.