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THE STORY OF OUR GENERATION TODAY – BRUTAL FACTS

THE STORY OF OUR GENERATION TODAY – BRUTAL FACTS

In one word, everything!

THEY ARE TURNING OUT TO BE ABUSERS
Today’s generation thinks that abusing makes them cool.
You are highly mistaken my friend. Saying “BC” and “MC” after each sentence doesn’t makes you look cool!

THEY HAVE NO IDEA OR GUIDANCE REGARDING RELATIONSHIPS
Suppose you broke a flower pot by mistake. What will you do? You will throw it away because it is of no use to you before even thinking once of joining it or of transforming into something useful.
Same is the case of relationships. We don’t even try once to save it.

HAVING “INTENSE” RELATIONSHIPS AT SCHOOL IS DANGEROUS
A girl of 14 was admitted to a hospital because she jumped from the top of the school building because her boyfriend ditched her!
So you think that having a relationship at this age is cool and giving up on your life is a brave decision and you call yourself grown up.
No, my dear darling, grow up!!!!!!!

SOCIAL MEDIA
Is it important to be a part of social media to prove that you are not boring or uncool?
There are a lot many things to do other than Instagram, Facebook, Twitter or Snapchat. They should be in your control not let social media control you.
Please do not get me wrong, our children definitely has to keep up with technology, but again, they must be taught not being “swallowed in” by the masses.

Having said the above, I want to briefly sketch a “scenario” of a present generation child.

  • At the age of 6, a child uses an iPhone because his/her parents are busy earning. That child needs a companion so he/she hooks up to an iPhone.
    He/she explores various platforms on social media.
  • At the age of 10, he/she roams the world because their parents are well settled and earning good packages.
  • At the age of 14, that child falls in love with a gorgeous girl/boy in class and asks for nudes.
  • At the age of 15, he/she goes to pubs, gets addicted to drugs and alcohol.
  • At the age of 16, his/her parents gift him/her the costliest bike or car and joins that child to one of the most prestigious schools in the city by paying hefty donations.
  • At the age of 17, that car turns into a dancing car later.
  • At the age of 18, he/she graduates with a minimum percentage.
  • At the age of 22, his parents allow him/her to “take a cap year”, which normally ends up as a “gap live:
  • At the age of 25, his parents force their child to marry “for status or money” whilst still supporting him/her.
  • Leaving him/her with only one tag in life and that is being provided for by his parents
    Before that young adult turns out 30 he enjoys every pleasure on earth, literally everything with zero efforts.

What later?
He/she just gets bored with life!

  • He/she is not enthusiastic about “a” first night, because they have already slept with many.
  • He/she is not enthusiastic about life, because their parents already made assets and properties in their name.
  • He/she is not enthusiastic to achieve something, because their parents already achieved a good position in the Corporate World.

There is no struggle in their lives. Everything comes to their feet!
They never struggled to achieve anything in his life.
That’s the brutal reality of many upper middle class children.
There are no “hassles” in their life. It’s like a cake walk for them.
That’s why children from upper middle class family look stunning, classy and gorgeous.
They either end up in beauty Parlour or Gym most of the time, because they don’t have anything to achieve in their life.
That child is entitled, as they only enjoy their parent’s money!
Another brutal reality is that most of the girls love such kinds of posh “boys” and are ready and waiting to “catch” an even richer boy!
Most of the girls never ever look at,

  • The common person who is struggling to make ends meet.
  • The one who is struggling to earn money just to repay his education loan, pay for electricity/ water bill, pay for his dad’s BP tablets, pay for home rentals, pay for cylinder and pay for groceries etc.,
  • The one who is struggling all his life to achieve something on his own.

The good thing comes to those who wait and struggle to the core but for these people, everything comes at the early age itself and life start to bore them very early in life.
There should be struggling to get everything in life! Only then will you respect it and value it and the most important point is that it will make your child feel that they are adding value – not riding on your coat tails.

  • Struggle to get good grades.
  • Struggle to pay for popcorn in multiplex.
  • Struggle to get the seat in a prestigious university.
  • Struggle to get the job.
  • Struggle to get the green signal from the crush to get marry.
  • Struggle to make money.
  • Struggle to own a house.
  • Struggle to purchase the bike/car.
  • Struggle to get popular.
  • That curiosity of first date night

Things/ people you earn with hard work and struggle will remain with you forever.
What comes easy won’t last long, and what lasts long won’t come easy.
In conclusion, the number one reason is that parents today are too quick to swoop in.
We don’t want our children to fall, so instead of letting them experience adversity, we clear the path.
We remove obstacles to make their life easy. But adversity is a part of life, and only by facing it can our children build life-coping skills they’ll need down the road.
So while it seems like we’re doing them a favour, we’re really stunting their growth. We’re putting short-term payoffs over long-term well-being!

It truly makes me sick to my stomach when I hear grown people say that kids have changed.
Kids have not changed! Kids do not know anything about anything
We as adults changed!!!! We demand less of our children,
We expect less of our children.
We make their lives easier all the time instead of preparing them for what life is truly about!
We are the ones who has to look at ourselves first before blame shifting, me included

Nelie Olivier

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